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My fiancee is an alcoholic, please help me?
Aug 4th
Question by W_vs_D: My fiancee is an alcoholic, please help me?
Just a quick brief…
We were best friends first. I was due to move to NZ for a job for 2 years, when we both realised we couldn’t live without each other. One night when he was sober, he broke down in the middle of the pub and said he did not want me to go, he wanted me to be a permenant part of his life, and he not only loved me as his friend, he was in love with me. Now this man does not cry!! Ever!
It was too late to cancel my move, so I went ahead and we did long distance for a year with only one 2 week holiday, and our relationship easily survived.
When I got back I moved straight into his place, I couldn’t imagine anything else. We practically lived together before anyway.
I noticed he was drinking a lot more than the usual fri sat sessions, but thought it was summer, I was back, and there were 2 other guys living with us aswell. But it didn’t slow down. I eventually convinced him to slow down to a 6 pack a night. I guess I was so blinded by the joy of being back I didn’t see the real problem. We finally moved into our own place. He started once again the episodes of getting paralyzing drunk almost every night. I talked to him so many times but it was up to him to realise how much he was hurting me. So once again he slowed down a little bit. Getting really drunk maybe 3 times a week the rest of the time a 6 pack a night.
Now the thing is, we live in Australia, in a different state to all of our family. We recently went and visited his family, and he got drunk every night with his brother, but the family didn’t care, because we were on holiday. The thing was it was normal for everyday.
Now we’re back home and he’s getting drunk every night again. It’s to the point it’s embarassing when we’re out, and I shouldn’t be embarrassed. I have to half carry him into the car then home, and spend half an hour convincing him to come to bed. He eventually does, passes out sideways on the bed, and I have to totally undress him, put a pillow under his head the right way so he can breathe properly, set his alarm e.t.c.
I’m getting so sick of this routine it has gone on way too long.
He’s also a complete arse now when he’s drunk. He’s jealous, overprotective and can’t comprehend anything I say properly. He twists it out of proportion in his own mind.
I have tried talking to him again and again when he’s sober. But drunk people are unreasonable, and believe everything they say is right. Therefore in the morning, all he remembers is that he was right, and I scr
Best answer:
Answer by Molly
They don’t change when they’re married. Decide if you can handle the rest of your life this way. Are you afraid if you make him choose between you and alcohol that he won’t choose you. Take it from someone who’s Dad and two grandfathers were alcoholics. Marriage doesn’t work unless you’re both alcoholics and that’s not cool.
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Q&A: Am I an alcoholic? What are the physical symptoms of alcoholism?
Jun 28th
Question by SHELTIELUVER: Am I an alcoholic? What are the physical symptoms of alcoholism?
I drink 3-4 times a week but lately more frequently. I don’t wake up craving alcohol though. It’s always later in the day, usually after work. I drink about a 6-pack and a pint of Rum over several hours. I do often don’t remember what I’ve done and I’ve done some embarassing things. I’ve also become very agressive lately when drinking when I always was a happy drinker. LUCKILY, I always have a sober driver. Lately, I’ve been very edgy and nervous. I get angry at the drop of a pin. I’m scared that I need help. Are there meds. that help if I quit with your nerves? I don’t want to go to a rehab because I don’t have insurance and I don’t want to lose my job. I also have an anxiety problem to begin with and take Xanax for my nerves. I know the combo. of Xanax and alcohol is bad and makes the alcohol much stronger. Oh, I’m a woman in my early 30′s. I’m 5’7 and 125 lbs. so I’m not a big person who has a huge tolerance although it seems like it sometimes.
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Answer by Jessica
red eyes, puffy face, liver problems, such as swelling, ulcers, shaking, delirium tremens ,nausea, Pain in the side or back from kidney problems, stomach and intestinal problems
poor diet and weight loss,Unexplained mood swings
…just to name a few
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Q&A: My mom’s a recovering alcoholic & she’s drinking again.?
Feb 28th
Question by Kenneth Alexander born 6/5/10 <3: My mom’s a recovering alcoholic & she’s drinking again.?
My mom used to drink alcohol on an everyday basis to the point of being absurdly drunk. I’m 18 now, she was drinking from the day I was born up until I was 14, when she ODed on anti-depressants and drank a crapload of alcohol, causing her to end up in the ER on Christmas Eve.
When my mom got drunk, she would be verbally abusive and thank God she hasn’t gotten drunk since. When she ODed, she ended up going to a psychiatrist and thankfully she stopped drinking, her doctors advised her not to drink again – because it would just tempt her to start doing it again.
It’s been like four years since she’s drank, but she’s been progressively starting to drink again. She’ll have shandy’s (half beer, half sprite) and irish creame coffees (whiskey and coffee) everyday, aand she’ll make stupid remarks like, “We’ll need to get wine in for Christmas, since it’s a holiday I deserve a special treat.”
Everytime she says she wants to drink, I’ll be quick to tell her she won’t and she’ll get mad. Everyone in my family drinks, so I think she wants to do it just to fit in with them, I just don’t understand what to do. Am I overreacting? I’ve tried to sit her down and tell her, I’ve also discussed this with my sisters, I don’t think they understand, as they are very older then me, and didn’t deal with my alcoholism as much as I did.
Thanks to anyone who read this, please let me know what you think!!
Best answer:
Answer by Cister
I am so sorry for your situation. I cannot imagine what is like to grow up like this.
The only thing I can say is that you should look for help outside, from some organization that can give you the support you need. You cannot go through this alone. If your sisters don’t mind, you should not think that you are overreacting. It is simple. You just don’t like it and period. But remember there are many organizations out there that can help you cope with your mom’s situation in a way that you can get stronger and end up helping her, maybe the whole family.
I pray a blessing upon you, and wish the best for you this Xmas and new year. You seem to be very reasonable , so just don’t give up.
http://alcoholism.about.com/cs/info2/a/blfam.htm
http://www.2learn.ca/currlinks/health/e/Resource/AlcoFamy.html
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alcoholic husband back to drinking but denying it?
Feb 3rd
Question by dolphingirl1971: alcoholic husband back to drinking but denying it?
He said he didnt think to pour it out, and he hid it so noone would think it was his. My son also asked me why do I think he comes home chewing gum. its to get rid of the smell. My husband can’t smoke inside his work, so he says he chews gum when he can’t smoke. I asked him why come home chewing it when you can smoke, he said he guessed he liked chewing it. The part of me that believes he isnt drinking is because he was a very violent and aggressive drunk, and I’ve not seen that lately. We have had some arguments but not like before. And when he drinked, he never drinked whiskey or liquor, only beer. My son suspects he’s drinking stronger alcohol to get drunk quicker. My husband’s daughter and sister even suspect he’s drinking. I know I should believe my son also, but I have not found anything to suspect from my husband. What should I do? My son is his stepson. I thought my husband was going on 9 months sober. Please help me.
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Answer by poopykins81
You should set down and talk to him and let him know your concerns, you’re his wife, you deserve the truth. My husband is also an alcoholic, he hasn’t had a drink in about 7 months, he’s on house arrest right now for 6 months bc of his drinking, he also has to wear a alcohol monitor and he’s not allowed to drink. He says once he’s off he’s getting plastered and I’m so scared of what’s going to happen. I’m so tired of getting calls from the cops and his cheating when he drinks. He got the last girl pregnant and I’m so scared. It’s very hard to deal with especially with 2 small kids and our daughter is old enough to know what will happen if daddy drinks. She says she don’t want him to drink bc he’ll go to jail. Being married to an alcoholic is the hardest thing in the world!
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I asked earlier about someone living with an alcoholic, would you mind reading more?
Jan 29th
Question by Josephine: I asked earlier about someone living with an alcoholic, would you mind reading more?
Basically, we’re trying to help someone out, so I’m just trying to get info.
The woman, “Sally”, lived with an alcoholic for many years. “Jim” wasn’t always like that, in fact, he was a top-notch guy in the beginning. Sally and Jim bought a house together, and his alcoholism started to come on full force. We would come over and notice holes punched in the walls, ‘spatters’ of liquid all over the place, etc. And Sally was VERY different. She was always sad and would never come out.
Because Jim spent all of his money at the bars (and a bottle of rum everyday), Sally was left to pay the mortgage. this was 5 years of this. Eventually, she gathered the strength and moved out. But she was still not herself. She was down to 94 lbs (he had called her “fat” several times), she didn’t care about ANYTHING. Jim was still living in the house, not paying the mortgage and she didn’t care. We would say “Sally, you need to quick-sell your house before it goes into forecloser!!” …. she would just shrug her shoulders. So, the house went into forecloser. Jim did a lot of damage to the house (the holes and whatnot), so it’s worth a lot less. They’re going to owe a good 20k to the bank.
What can Sally do? This is not her fault, but it’s not like we can go to a judge and say “well, he was an alcoholic and emotionally abusing her, causing her to not care!”. She was SO different. A baby kitten could have died in her arms and she wouldn’t have even flinched! And now that she’s getting better, she’s realizing what happened in her life while she was living with him. Including a 20k debt. What can she do ??
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Answer by CB55
Honestly I don’t think there is anything she can do…I ha a situation mildly like this but it wasn’t a house or a 00 debt, It was a cell phone and a 00 debt. I’m fighting them on the contract being null and void. I honestly don’t think unless a clause can be found in the contract that anything can be done. the only option she would have had was to go to the bank or whatever earlier and talked to them about somehow figuring out a way to fix this before she accumulted the debt. Since it is already been forclosed on there is not alot that can be done. I would go to a tax lawyer or debt lawyer and see if they could help her get her debt underconrtol but she will probably be on the hook for the 20,000. Her only option might be filing for bankrupcy before he does…
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Is my friend an Alcoholic?
Jan 13th
Question by 0000000: Is my friend an Alcoholic?
My good friend that I have cared about for a long time, is for lack of a better word a “party girl”. I don’t want to jump to the conlcusion of Alcoholism, but I am worried, because I question if she drinks for more than just a good time. I wonder if maybe she is using alcohol to cope with life. Here is what I’ve noticed:
1. When she is sober, she is not always as happy as she is when she is drunk and I notice when she is sober, that she can be somewhat mean or quick to judge.
2. When she drink, she drink a lot of alcohol. Not just one or two drinks, but a lot. Taking like 15 shots or enough to black out.
3. Every time after we party, I ask her if she remembers much. She remembers her nights maybe 20% of the time.
4. When she drinks, she can either be really happy (which is somewhat rare) OR she’ll be very rude (very belligerent) and can say very hurtful things. She gets mad easily whens she really intoxicated if she doesnt get her way.
5. She drinks about 4 to 5 nites out of the week (or so she says) maybe she secretely drinks more?
I dont know much about how to detect an alcoholic. Maybe im dumb and cant see whats right in front of my nose. But when you’ve known someone for a long time and you really care about them, the last thing you wanna think about, is them suffering from a serious problem.
So what do you think? Is this an alcoholic? She’s only 18 but I am so worried and I love her very much.
K thanks.
Also, when I say black out. I mean she forgets everything from the night before, not actually like completely passing out.
Best answer:
Answer by Andrew
yeah she is a alcoholic, she abuses it so she thinks that she feels better. You need to tell her to stop or the alcohol will kill her from blacking out and if not it will kill her activity cells in her brain.
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Why do you think the Republicans like senile or alcoholic presidents?
Dec 23rd
Question by Onlooker: Why do you think the Republicans like senile or alcoholic presidents?
Let’s face, prior to Obama the two biggest deficit spenders were Bush II and Reagan. Bush II was an admitted alcoholic, and it’s been pretty well established that alcoholism causes permanent damage to the brain. After Reagan left office, he made very few public appearances (such as a quick one to collect million from the Japanese at a speaking engagement) and then admitted he had Alzheimers. In fact, while Reagan himself admitted while in office he could remember nothing about Iran contra, which shows the effects of the disease were already in place. (And I mean no disrespect to those who suffer from that terrible disease, just that they should not be president.)
Why do you think Republicans elect people with physical brain impairments to lead their party? Is it because those without physical brain impairments are idiots like Sarah Palin and Michael Steele?
Obama’s admitted to trying some things, and its true that probably every president has tried a drink, smoked a cigarette, or (the more modern ones) tried some drugs. But, there’s a big difference between trying something a few times and being an alcoholic like Bush or suffering from a physical brain disorder like Reagan.
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Answer by Confederate Soldier
*yawn*
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My mom is a drug addict and my father is an alcoholic, is there any way i can get emancipated in california?
Dec 4th
Question by megen: My mom is a drug addict and my father is an alcoholic, is there any way i can get emancipated in california?
I am 15 going on 16 soon. Live in California. I can get a job in 2 months, which can pay for me. I am an addict myself trying to stay clean, and my parents, both being using addicts aren’t helping my situation at all. I am trying to stay clean so I can maintain good grades and eventually go into the Air Force. I want to get emancipated. Any lawyers out there? Anyone have any tips? I need HELP QUICK. Please answer… Anyone…
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Answer by Cinnamon Glotz
You need a job, and your own place. Can’t get emancipated without them.
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Q&A: I really need some help dealing with an alcoholic!?
Dec 1st
Question by Princess: I really need some help dealing with an alcoholic!?
I really need some advice on what to do! This may be kinda long, but Ill try to make it quick.
I live with my boyfriend. Were both 21 years old. His dad split up with his girlfriend of estimated 10 years about 6 months ago. My boyfriend, his older borther (23) and dad were all living with the girlfriend and her sons. My boyfriend moved out and in with me before the split occured. His dad and his brother got an apartment and have been living together since. They are both really bad alchoholics. Especially his dad. His brother, today actually, just graduated from some forn of AA and had been sober for 1 to 2 weeks now. Can any body give us any advice on what we can do for his dad? Their oldest brother is a psychologist and he cant get through to his dad. Everytime someone tries to talk to his dad and be honest with him, he thinks they hate him and arent on his side. He is irrational. His life is going down the drain and hes on the brink of loosing his career. My boyfriend gets calls just about evey night about some argument or fight they just had. His brother often asks to spend the night at our house. Now I love his brother as if he were my own, but our home is rather small and it puts stress on our relationship. My boyfriend is so stressed out. He thinks his dad is going to die soon if he keeps this up. I mean his dad is up at 7 am drunk! Passing out, falling all over the place. Its so bad that at one point he tried to kiss me! You can imagaine how he felt the day after. For all of us this has affected what can we do?!
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Answer by Jillian
You should call someone that can help you set up an intervention, like a rehab center, social worker or psychologist that can help him go into rehab. Not only are relationships on the line, but his health and everyone else around him. He needs to understand that people love him and are there for him, and that alcohol is not the answer. He wants to be in a state that is not reality and doesn’t care if he dies. He needs to be in a place where they can structure and control his habits and help him out of this and cope in a healthy way.
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My mom’s a recovering alcoholic & she’s drinking again.?
Nov 20th
Question by Kenneth Alexander born 6/5/10 <3: My mom’s a recovering alcoholic & she’s drinking again.?
My mom used to drink alcohol on an everyday basis to the point of being absurdly drunk. I’m 18 now, she was drinking from the day I was born up until I was 14, when she ODed on anti-depressants and drank a crapload of alcohol, causing her to end up in the ER on Christmas Eve.
When my mom got drunk, she would be verbally abusive and thank God she hasn’t gotten drunk since. When she ODed, she ended up going to a psychiatrist and thankfully she stopped drinking, her doctors advised her not to drink again – because it would just tempt her to start doing it again.
It’s been like four years since she’s drank, but she’s been progressively starting to drink again. She’ll have shandy’s (half beer, half sprite) and irish creame coffees (whiskey and coffee) everyday, aand she’ll make stupid remarks like, “We’ll need to get wine in for Christmas, since it’s a holiday I deserve a special treat.”
Everytime she says she wants to drink, I’ll be quick to tell her she won’t and she’ll get mad. Everyone in my family drinks, so I think she wants to do it just to fit in with them, I just don’t understand what to do. Am I overreacting? I’ve tried to sit her down and tell her, I’ve also discussed this with my sisters, I don’t think they understand, as they are very older then me, and didn’t deal with my alcoholism as much as I did.
Thanks to anyone who read this, please let me know what you think!!
Best answer:
Answer by queenof_damned
i say, and i know this from experience, my mom and dad are both alcoholics, but i say, just step back and let whats going to happen, happen. Its hard, but really either way theres nothing you can do. If she wants to drink she will. Shes human, she makes mistakes. Dont be mad at her when she falls, but encourage her to get back up and try again. but also dont put up with shit you shouldnt have to. if it bothers ya enough, walk away, you’re 18, get your own place, and stay away for awhile. but make sure you’re there to help her up if she needs it.
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