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How Can I deal with some of my family members?

Question by Ms.Lola87: How Can I deal with some of my family members?
I’m a single mom of a 2 year old and I’m 8 months pregnant, I go to college part-time to be a paralegal, I have 6 months until graduation, my ex left me for another woman and he is not helping me monetary, I will place child support on him, I live with my mom and my step-father,my little brothers and older brother, I’m not paying rent yet because I don’t have no source of income, my mom helps me a lot she takes care of my daughter while I go to school, the problem is that my 25 year old brother who is an alcoholic, and smokes pot outside the house but once he comes inside he stinks the whole house I think this is bad for my child and my little brothers, is been 2 times that he has been verbally abusive towards me, yesterday he talked to me in a rude way, he is very disrespectful and quick temper, I told him that if he is going to be rude to me that is best for him not to talk to me at all, which is going to pain me since we live under the same roof, and my 7 year old brother is very rude also, has no discipline even though me and my mom we try to punish him, I think he is a bad influence for my 2 year old, I sleep with my daughter in the living room and is always so noisy that we have no privacy, I know I’m not paying rent yet but once I do I think I deserve some privacy, I have no other place to go how can I come up with a solution so I won’t be so miserable?

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Answer by ck4peanut
God, I feel sorry for your mother!

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how to deal with an old flame that is dying …?

Question by ericabishop691DragonflyGirl: how to deal with an old flame that is dying …?
ok here it is: when I was a teenager,I ran away from an abusive,alcoholic home. I met up with this ‘Nam vet,who took me hither and yon, for over three weeks. I dealt with flashbacks,his drinking,his drugs,and generally we travelled and enjoyed each other’s company,(and bodies,)for over three weeks. For me, it was surreal.Perfect. I was free,had someone to listen to me,care for me, ect.Well, I left him b/c I didn’t want him to be caught and go to prison for statutory rape.I didn’t see him for over 25 years.I had been married/divorced,4 times and had 6 kids. All in all, I thought of him from time to time, wondered if he ever thought of me. i ran into him thru a neighbor,and found out he is dying of cancer/COPD,failing organs,ect.i can not cope,as I don’t ” do” dying ppl. My dad’s cancer I didn’t deal with and in the past,when i found someone that ‘s dying, I backed off right quick,and stayed that way. I can’t help but be close to him,& hubby does’ nt mind. Help! By “do” i don’t mean sex.
his drinking/drugs didn’t bother me, cuz he wasn’t abusive and treated me like a princess. My mom, on the other hand was physically/mentally/emo. abusive. We had a real good time and I loved every minute of it!

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Answer by ~♥Sasha♥~
I’m sorry to hear that you are going through that. I am the SAME way, I just don’t deal well with death/dying. =*(

It’s up to you, if you feel strog enough to be there for him, then great. Do what feels right.

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how to deal with an old flame that is dying …?

Question by ericabishop691DragonflyGirl: how to deal with an old flame that is dying …?
ok here it is: when I was a teenager,I ran away from an abusive,alcoholic home. I met up with this ‘Nam vet,who took me hither and yon, for over three weeks. I dealt with flashbacks,his drinking,his drugs,and generally we travelled and enjoyed each other’s company,(and bodies,)for over three weeks. For me, it was surreal.Perfect. I was free,had someone to listen to me,care for me, ect.Well, I left him b/c I didn’t want him to be caught and go to prison for statutory rape.I didn’t see him for over 25 years.I had been married/divorced,4 times and had 6 kids. All in all, I thought of him from time to time, wondered if he ever thought of me. i ran into him thru a neighbor,and found out he is dying of cancer/COPD,failing organs,ect.i can not cope,as I don’t ” do” dying ppl. My dad’s cancer I didn’t deal with and in the past,when i found someone that was dying, I backed off right quick,and stayed that way. I can’t help but be close to him,and hubby does not mind. Help!

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Answer by Missie
Since he is the one that is dying, I would say it’s his choice whether or not you get back into his life and in what capacity. If he wants you to be his friend, you want to be there for him and your husband is okay with it you should be. Just be careful not to cross any lines in the name of helping someone who is dying. It’s easy and can jeopardize the relationship that will survive him.

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What’s the best way to deal with a boyfriend that has had a drug addiction in the past?

Question by δwєєt.Łiкє.δυĢαЯ: What’s the best way to deal with a boyfriend that has had a drug addiction in the past?
I recently started dating my boyfriend. Well,a month ago.

He’s very nice and I pretty much adore him. The only problem is,I am worried that he will go behind my back and do what he use to do.

Since we got together he vowed to never touch a drug again. While I trust him to a certain extent,I also know that quitting drugs isn’t just that easy to do,and sometimes still wonder.

How is one to deal with this,any advice?

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Answer by hateyoumorehaha
What drug was he into? That’s the most critical thing to look at before deciding if he may go back to using them.

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How to deal with Alcoholism in loved one?!?

Question by redhot200225: How to deal with Alcoholism in loved one?!?
My other half doesn’t drink every day but when he does he can’t stop. He turns into someone else saying horrible, horrible things. Its to the point that he doesn’t remember from one minute to the next and he hears things that no one ever said. If i cry, I get yelled at and called crazy. He is hurting himself and its killing me to watch, esp. with a baby on the way. What can I do to help him?

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Answer by Ce-el
Alcoholics Anonymous or Al anon

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What are some good ways to deal with anger…?

Question by LoveMyLife: What are some good ways to deal with anger…?
I need to find some good ways to deal with anger while I am busy and need to accomplish many tasks during the day. Try to keep the answers positive, Do Not include things like: Sex, drugs, alcohol, cussing, or sleep. I am aware that I choose how I wish to feel and have had extensive Psych therapy, have even taken group therapy, still I end up throwing a fit. I do wish to get past this. I consider myself a very good hearted person , I really do love life- its just my temper flares real quick , but burns out fast too. Some people are really good at pressing my buttons. People who are extremly selfish, inconsiderate and narrow minded. Yes, I am married to him. He has good qualities too-I do love him-we all have our bad sides. I digress. Need to control my anger. Help. Thanks for your time.

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Answer by Chris H
Writing a song or poem that expresses your anger. It seems like a lot of musicians do that. Here’s a link to a list of angry songs http://www.wanderlist.com/angrysongs

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Modern Day Addiction Problem And The Means to Deal With it

The darker side of this modern life style is the tremendous pressure and stress that is sometimes unbearable. And out of these pressure people are suffering from anxiety and frustration. This time the effect of recession has brought all these things of anxiety and depression in people’s mind that they are seeking the temporary escape from these problems by taking drugs and alcohol. Not only that the illegal drugs are the sources of this addiction but also it is often seen these days that people are getting addicted to prescription drugs also. This too is quite an alarming fact. Addiction to painkillers and prescription drug addiction are two new things with theirs fatal effects. But people are quite ignorant while taking these drugs and painkillers. And most bad thing is that while a person fall into the addiction to painkillers and prescription drug addiction then it becomes harder and harder to get rid of that addiction. People think that they are not well with taking those painkillers or prescribed drugs and they can not withdraw the use of those drugs and the result of this they become slowly addicted to these things. It is very hard to control it. The modern life style of people is also a great reason behind this increase in the prescription drug abuse. People are so disturbed with the stress of their life that they often use painkillers and other stress bursting and anti-anxiety medicines at a regular basis. And this addiction is no less harmful and alarming than taking drug like marijuana, heroine, cocaine etc. other drug addictions are like opiate addiction, xanex addiction.

The effects of all these types of drug addictions are both physical and mental. The particular person becomes gradually poorer and poorer day by day and he loses his concentration and patience. He becomes unstable and anxious and always wants to take drug or opium or painkillers or prescribed medicines. Thus the result of this drug addiction not only does a lot of harm to the individual only but also has quite an ill effect on his family and the society as a whole.

Sunset Malibu is such a drug rehab center where you can get 100% attention and care which can make a story of humane triumph over drug addiction which is apparently impossible to give up. Here all kind of rehab is possible like illegal drugs, alcohol an addiction and even prescription drug addiction and opiate addiction. Every person is served with individual treatment. The services provided by the best rehab centers offer specific programs for specific cases. In Sunset Malibu, where you can find all sort of drug treatments such as opiate withdrawal, rapid detox, opiate addiction treatment, prescription drug addiction treatment, painkiller addiction treatment etc. withdrawals of each and every kind of addiction sated above is available here. The doctors and specialists and therapists are always concern about the health of the patients and that is why the treatment done here is not half or mini like other rehab centers. This rehab center believes in complete recovery and renewal of patient’s life.

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DUI Lawyer Minneapolis Helps You Deal with Tough Consequences

Those arrested under DUI charges face the prospect of jail time, loss of driving license and substantial fines. Even when your license is being renewed, you may have to pay an expensive surcharge for the same.

Contact Your Lawyer Right Away
You should contact DUI Lawyer Minneapolis right away after you have been charged with DUI offense. While the negative effects cannot be wished away completely, hiring a qualified DUI Attorney Minneapolis can still minimize them. Your lawyer will understand the negative effects you may probably face and he or she will fight for your case and rights aggressively. Many people charged under DUI have been successfully defended by their DUI Lawyer Minneapolis.

Positive Blood Test – You Stand a Chance
Even those tested with positive blood tests and high breath have benefited from the services of DUI Attorney Minneapolis. They make every effort to get your charges reduced, dismissed while trying to protect your drivers license at the same time. Even in the case of suspended driver’s license, your lawyer may help you get an occupational license during the trial period. Your DUI Lawyer Minneapolis may also help you get the DUI offenses expunged from your criminal history.

Defense Starts Early
Your defense starts right at the investigation stage, where the DUI Attorney Minneapolis makes sure that every mistake made by authorities is found out and a strategy may be developed for you to win. There have been instances when law enforcement officers illegally stop, detain and arrest you without any proper reason. Your DUI Lawyer Minneapolis makes sure these frivolous charges are dismissed right away. Even if the case goes to the bench or jury, the lawyers use solid arguments to question the field tests conducted and incriminating statements against you. These techniques have been successfully used in numerous DUI cases in Minneapolis.

Overzealous Legal System
The current prosecution environment is overzealous due to which the authorities arrest even innocent people at times in the present legal system. A qualified DUI Attorney Minneapolis therefore, is a must to prevent government from taking away your privileges, rights, freedom and very importantly, your money.

Vigorous Cross Examination
A jury trial is often recommended by DUI Lawyer Minneapolis as they can make a significant difference in the courtroom. Your lawyer will start by getting the police report copy and help you find out what options do you have against the charges. The vigorous cross-examination of the police officers by your lawyer helps you question the accuracy of their judgments. Your blood alcohol content test is also put under severe scrutiny so that every possibility of securing your release can be availed.

You can be sure that even if your breath test is on the higher side, you still stand a chance. For successful defense, you need your lawyer to be exceptionally experienced and detail oriented so that they can find practical solutions to your complicated problems. While choosing your DUI Attorney Minneapolis, you can easily find out whether the lawyers have a reputation of being responsive and hardworking or not, and you can decide accordingly. Every Driving Under Influence case is different than the other, which means every DUI case and situation need a separate and detailed study.

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How Can Drug Treatment Help You Deal With Panic And Anxiety Disorders?

Panic is acute, short-lived, extreme anxiety with accompanying physical symptoms. Panic attacks cause such symptoms as chest pain, choking, sweating dizziness, nausea and shortness of breathing, fear of going crazy or of losing control, trembling or shaking, detachment from environment. However, panic attacks differ from panic disorders. Panic disorder is diagnosed when people experience at least two unprovoked and unexpected panic attacks. The frequency of attacks can vary greatly. Some people have weekly or even daily attacks that occur for months, whereas others have several daily attacks followed by weeks or months without attacks. When people experience them as part of panic disorders, frequently anticipate and worry about another attack-a condition called anticipatory anxiety.

Do you have an anxiety disorder?

If you identify with several of the following signs, you may be suffering from an anxiety disorder.

1. Are you constantly tense, worried, or on edge?
2. Are you plagued by fears that you know are irrational?
3. Do you believe that something bad will happen if certain things are not done in a certain way?
4. Do you avoid everyday situations or activities because they make you anxious?

The more conventional treatments for panic and anxiety disorders include a wide variety of medications. Medications may be used in the short-term to relieve severe panic and anxiety symptoms so that other forms of therapy can be pursued. Drugs that are used to treat panic and anxiety disorders include antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs such as benzodiazepines. Most types of anti-depressants, monoamine oxidase inhibitors, selective serotonin inhibitors, and serotonin inhibitors are effective.

When a drug is effective, it prevents or greatly reduces the number of panic and anxiety attacks. A drug may have to be taken for a long time because panic and anxiety attacks often return once the drug is stopped. The next step is to consult with a therapist who has experience treating anxiety disorders. The therapist will work with you to determine the cause and type of your anxiety disorder and devise a course of treatment. People with panic and anxiety disorders are more receptive to treatment if they understand that the disorder involves both physical and psychological processes and that treatment must address both. Drug therapy and treatment can only help you reduce symptoms and take back control of your life, not a cure for this bothersome condition.

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