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How can I reconcile the awful truth about my gf’s past?

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Several months ago I met up with an old GF from HS who had to move away, so we never really broke up, but we moved on since there was nothing we could do about it. 25 years goes by and I get phone call from her and we start seeing each other again. It was a fantastic romantic and emotional reunion & it’s been pretty darn fun, but over the past few months, I’ve learned of some horrible things about her past, from her. I’ve also found that she is most sensitive & not nearly as warm & loving as she was 25 years ago. The reason for this is clear; her past has been atrocious. Her parents were cruel, she became addicted to heavy drugs & was a homeless runaway who ended up with even worse people than her parents. She was raped & beaten, forced into prostitution & crime and has done several years in jail for those crimes. She was raped again and became pregnant, which got her into a shelter, off of drugs & therapy. 4 years after she her son & kept him, she fell off the wagon and started using heroin again. But she knew she couldn’t do that again, so she sought help at a methadone clinic where she is now on methadone maintenance & hasn’t used drugs at all for 7 years, aside from the low dose methadone. She is involved with a women’s therapy group as well as a private therapist.

Also she has been a lesbian since her son was born, but I’m a guy and she’s pursuing me.

So I’m a regular dude, who has never solicited sex from a hooker, nor have I ever been in prison. I’m a clean man with a job and honor, dignity and self respect. When I first saw her after 25 years it was one of the most incredible & awesome moments in my life, because we really did love each other way back in the day. But now after slowly learning about her history, it’s like a nightmare. I love her, but I’m blown away by the things she has done & the decisions she made. So really, what am I supposed to do now? How can I come to terms with all that and have peace of mind with this woman, or do you believe what I believe, that I’m stained now & life is too short to take an ex-junkie prostitute, thug & rape victim seriously? I’ve been very good to her & I do love her, but I am stressed beyond my comfort zone about her crazy life & I’d like some thoughts, advice or comments, just so I can use the information to help me make my own decision. Thanks for reading & considering my questions.

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Answer by Any1
wayyyyyyy to long to read

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How do I help him get over his past drug addiction?

Question by movu101779: How do I help him get over his past drug addiction?
I just starting dating an old friend from High School.. He was open and honest with me about how he has been using drugs for the past several years but recently quit cause he ODed and almost got killed. He still talks about it but after talking about it fear & tears start to fill his eyes. How do I help him get over this pain?
Rosabelle – I can’t email you cause you don’t have that as an option on your profile. Please email me so I can contact you back.
I won’t give up on him. He did quit. He gets upset talking about how things were. But being able to talk about it helps him get it out. I just want to know what else I can do. I feel just being there is not enough. He does not have support of parents cause his mom does drugs.

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Answer by Futuremeds
tell him to try a natural , legally and secure way to get high
herbal smoke shop will help

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What is the past participle of “binge drinking”?

Question by Code Monkey: What is the past participle of “binge drinking”?
Im writing a paper and I need to figure out how to word this sentence:
“They report that 15% of the adult American population has binge drunk five or more drinks on a single occasion”

“binge drunk” doesn’t seem right… the past part. of “binge” is “binged”, but am assuming you would not change it because it is a noun in this case. Any thoughts?
This is the right excerpt:
“They report that 15% of the adult American population has binge drunk, meaning they have consumed five or more drinks on a single occasion”

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Answer by That One Girl
According to a report, fifteen percent of the adult American population has had five or more alcholoic drinks on a single occasion, causing them to binge drink.

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Can a person be denied for a life insurance just because a of past drug addiction?

Question by mgaribay74: Can a person be denied for a life insurance just because a of past drug addiction?
2 years ago i was arrested for possesion and use of illegal drugs i did 3 months and jail went into rehab for a year, I have been clean and sober for 2 years and few months, I recently try to get a Life Insurance And I got denied my metlife and 90 others companies according to my broker. the Reason my felony for drug possesion!
I live in California,

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Answer by ♥ deonnaashmore ♥
That is pretty typical. Because drug dependency is such a risk, life insurance companies usually like to wait about 7-10 years before offering coverage.

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I have put on a lot of weight these past 6 months and would like some help to lose it?

Question by ro: I have put on a lot of weight these past 6 months and would like some help to lose it?
I have been on the contraceptive pill Yasmin and have found out that I have put on half a stone over the past 6 months! This may be due to me being with my boyfriend for this long and feeling ‘content’ with myself but now I have had enough and this New Year has made me want to lose the little belly I have gained! Haha. I am 9 stone 2/4 (it fluctates) and 5 ft 1 or 2 (I’m not really sure).
I am currently at 6th form and as a student I need ideas for food quick and easy and on the go which is also not going to make me fat! I also need some tips on alcoholic beverages that are not too high in calories, as I am a bit of a party animal and I’m sure drinking loads of malibu and coke probably hasn’t helped me with my figure. Haha.

Thanks for any help! x

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Answer by af
What is a stone?

Birth control pills made me gain massive amounts of weight. Nothing worked to lose it, I had to get off the pills. Everyone is different, some women don’t gain a pound.

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What’s the best way to deal with a boyfriend that has had a drug addiction in the past?

Question by δwєєt.Łiкє.δυĢαЯ: What’s the best way to deal with a boyfriend that has had a drug addiction in the past?
I recently started dating my boyfriend. Well,a month ago.

He’s very nice and I pretty much adore him. The only problem is,I am worried that he will go behind my back and do what he use to do.

Since we got together he vowed to never touch a drug again. While I trust him to a certain extent,I also know that quitting drugs isn’t just that easy to do,and sometimes still wonder.

How is one to deal with this,any advice?

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Answer by hateyoumorehaha
What drug was he into? That’s the most critical thing to look at before deciding if he may go back to using them.

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Why has binge drinking, in the UK dropped over the past few years?

Question by Bob M: Why has binge drinking, in the UK dropped over the past few years?
Evidence shows that the number of people that are binge drinking in the UK has fallen, but why is this? New laws or taxes?
Thanks for your help

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Answer by Miniver
either economics or it’s just that the kids today are pussies

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does forgiving past issues with family necessarily mean having to build a relationship with them?

Question by Saphira: does forgiving past issues with family necessarily mean having to build a relationship with them?
Hello
I am a 21 year old female. I grew up in a very abusive and dysfunctional family due to an alcoholic parent’s addiction. Well anyways, to make it quick, I grew up with several mental problems due to the verbal, physical, and emotional abuse from all family members, I played the role as the “lost child.” Now all of a sudden everyone in the family seems to be acting like they all of a sudden care about me and each other, and somehow the most abusive family members are acting all nice. I must say, I am willing to forgive, but a relationship with my family is something I DO NOT want. I do not feel comfortable after all these years of mental disturbance and abuse, and I don’t feel connected to any one of them except my mother. I don’t want to speak much or be around them anymore. I have PTSD from all the domestic violence as a child, and I do believe it is quite possibly going to be a lifelong mental problem as directed by my doctor. I feel a relationship just isn’t going to work and I do not trust anyone, no matter how “nice” they act with me. Is this something normal? is it necessary to have to have a relationship just because I forgive? if anyone has any solutions please help, any answers are appreciated.

**note: I am religious if anyone has any help in that aspect

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Answer by 80ist
I am an atheist and find it hard to swallow that christians live in those abusive ways coz atheists dont
Ur old enough to live on ur own and join online clubs like dating services. Plenty of them are religious like eHarmony.com

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