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What are some symptoms of Alcoholism?

Question by Diana: What are some symptoms of Alcoholism?
I’m writing a novel and one of the main characters is an alcoholic. He is in a mental hospital for this and his other disorders, and considering he is there he cannot have alcohol. What are some of the symptoms/signs of withdrawal that an alcoholic may have if in an environment where drinks are absolutely prohibited for them?

Thank you for your time if you decide to help me :)

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Answer by David
i,d consult web sites that deal with this. i know withdrawal is pretty nasty. just stopping coffee drinking can give you a headache.

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What do i do? Need some advice! :(?

Question by HONEY: What do i do? Need some advice! :( ?
We just broke up after 2.5 yrs a month ago and im a mess.. the begining was very rough, he always thought i was up to something or cheating on him. It took a toll on me. Him being so insecure but i was determined to make it work. I had to get serious and break up with him bc i couldnt take it anymore, we got back together a week later and got thru it! Fast foward 2 years..
I just turned 25.. so ive been getting the itch to move foward, i pressured him and STESSEd him out and was MEAN, so mean to him bc he wasnt getting hhis stuff together quick enough for me. I wanted to move in and he wasnt ready and i pressured him sooo much, for a minute there i forgot about the love :( and broke up with him. When i SHOULD of stood by him, and told him positive things instead of negative things. Hes been thru enough in his life and didnt need me, the one he loves so much, bringing him down.. Ive tried to get him back but he wont. He said he loves me so much but needs to work on himself and be by himself, and find himself and love himself bc for a really long time he hasnt done that. Just 3 months before he got together with me him and his Ex broke up, it was nasty, she cheated on him, and it was a bad break up.

Hes 22

He doesnt have much self worth.

Hes insecure

Not confident.

Grew up with both alcoholic parents

Hes very humble and a great guy.

I need to give him his space and time dont i? Ugh this sucks. Well i just want some advice, and things to do to help him so if we do get back together. I can be everything he needs me to be. I love him soo much

Someone mentioned going to do community service and help people so he can see others with tough lives also, and even tougher.
Also mentioned him playing on a sports team. He does that and absolutely LOVES it. It makes him sooo happy.
I love him to death. Please, need advice.

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Answer by Just
give him some time but maybe ask if you can still talk to him here and there?? if he’s not into it then i’d just completely leave him a lone.

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I am 90 days sober but am so annoyed at some of things I hear in AA meetings. Why?

Question by mike r: I am 90 days sober but am so annoyed at some of things I hear in AA meetings. Why?
Don’t get me wrong. It saved my life. I was drinking a handle bottle of booze everyday and smoking heroin and shooting oxycontin. I was on a quick road to death. But, there are a few things that annoy the crap out of me in EVERY meeting I go to. The use of such words as ‘normie’ and ‘I’m a grateful alcoholic’ and ‘in these walls’ or ‘in these rooms’ and when the literature person tells the meeting that there is reading material they can pick up from the rack and the whole group says ‘nice rack’ like it is funny or something. Or when the secretary asks if anyone can help clean up after the meeting has concluded and a bunch of nimrods all yell out ‘that’s the secretary’s job.’ I can’t forget to mention how many people overuse the ‘this disease is so cunning, baffling, powerful.’ Last, but certainly not least, is when they close with the Lord’s prayer and the person says ‘who’s father?’ then the group starts the ‘Our Father who….’ Anyway, I’m just rambling on and on but I wish people didn’t have to be so stereotypical AA dorks. It gets so annoying. Have some originality and quit being a robot like everyone else.

I’ll end by saying, again, I like the program. It has worked wonders for me. But, there are so many meetings I will not step foot into anymore because of everything I mentioned above. It is just way too annoying & really shows what huge followers some of these people are. I’m hoping the few meetings that are free of the crap will not be infested by other AA members that enjoy being a robot so I can continue to stay sober.

If you go to AA and can answer my question as to why so many people say the same thing and can’t get an original thought in their head I would appreciate it. Thanks.

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Answer by Tink
Youre new – and you can be as irritated with it as you want….(and trust me, everyone is irritated with it at first – however, as you gain more time, the ones who are intolerant of it stop going, and go back out – and things get worse)

Have you “worked” the steps yet? or are you just going to meetings and still suffering?

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Atheists & Believers: What are some good organizations you know of that fight against hard drug addiction?

Question by Andy F: Atheists & Believers: What are some good organizations you know of that fight against hard drug addiction?
Here in Washington DC, there’s a group called “Second Genesis” that I’ve given money to that is supposed to be pretty successful in getting crack and heroin users off drugs, using a “tough love” method.

I think the founders / organizers are probably Jewish, judging from their literature, but I’m not sure of this.

Are there either religiously oriented or purely secular groups that you know about & recommend supporting, that are helping people to escape from substance abuse & addiction?

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Answer by M to the R Mighty RA
A charity local to me is called Broadreach House, they supply clean needles and heroine substitute to people on the streets and house people who are coming off drugs and help them get jobs and their lives back. They are funded mainly by the local health authority, but also by public donations. So are secular, if a little new age in their philosophy

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Q&A: What are some ways I can develop alcoholism quicker?

Question by Kermit: What are some ways I can develop alcoholism quicker?
Life is rather mundane, and the girl of my dreams is non existent and really bland even in fantasy. She only wants to watch TV, debate baseball lineups and has put on 20 pounds while getting her implants removed.

I digress.

I have decided to develop a habbit of some sort, and am leaning towards alcohol.

I really don’t drink much more than Miller Lite. Will this suffice in turning into a habbit? Or will I need to work my way up the ladder quicker?

Right now my autobiography is a bore!

Best answer:

Answer by Davy Jones
Just drink more and don`t sleep and start drinking neat rum you goose

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Q&A: I really need some help dealing with an alcoholic!?

Question by Princess: I really need some help dealing with an alcoholic!?
I really need some advice on what to do! This may be kinda long, but Ill try to make it quick.

I live with my boyfriend. Were both 21 years old. His dad split up with his girlfriend of estimated 10 years about 6 months ago. My boyfriend, his older borther (23) and dad were all living with the girlfriend and her sons. My boyfriend moved out and in with me before the split occured. His dad and his brother got an apartment and have been living together since. They are both really bad alchoholics. Especially his dad. His brother, today actually, just graduated from some forn of AA and had been sober for 1 to 2 weeks now. Can any body give us any advice on what we can do for his dad? Their oldest brother is a psychologist and he cant get through to his dad. Everytime someone tries to talk to his dad and be honest with him, he thinks they hate him and arent on his side. He is irrational. His life is going down the drain and hes on the brink of loosing his career. My boyfriend gets calls just about evey night about some argument or fight they just had. His brother often asks to spend the night at our house. Now I love his brother as if he were my own, but our home is rather small and it puts stress on our relationship. My boyfriend is so stressed out. He thinks his dad is going to die soon if he keeps this up. I mean his dad is up at 7 am drunk! Passing out, falling all over the place. Its so bad that at one point he tried to kiss me! You can imagaine how he felt the day after. For all of us this has affected what can we do?!

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Answer by Jillian
You should call someone that can help you set up an intervention, like a rehab center, social worker or psychologist that can help him go into rehab. Not only are relationships on the line, but his health and everyone else around him. He needs to understand that people love him and are there for him, and that alcohol is not the answer. He wants to be in a state that is not reality and doesn’t care if he dies. He needs to be in a place where they can structure and control his habits and help him out of this and cope in a healthy way.

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Do some laws “encourage” people to break them?

Question by tarokahn: Do some laws “encourage” people to break them?
for example Cigarettes and Alcohol have become a “right of passage” in the US. Kids want to be “grown up” and smoking or drinking facilitates that for them, also it gives them an easy way to rebell. Also other drugs, Pot, Crack, Coke, Speed, all of these things are illegal and because they are people are dying over them. I say if someone wants to smoke pot let them, if they want to be a heroin junkie rather than a productive member of society then give them a handfull of drugs and needles and let them go OD somewhere.

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Answer by Jordan
It’s more about the dangerousness of the drugs. For example, you can get alcohol poisoning the first time you drink and die. Cigarettes are highly addictive, and cause cancer. You can do too much crack or coke and die as well, and speed makes your heart beat faster, which could cause you to have a heart attack. There are reasons these drugs are illegal.

And, honestly, I would rather NOT have someone being a junkie out there strung out on heroin or crack or whatever their drug of choice is, they are dangers to society.

What happens if someone is strung out on crack and they rob a store and kill someone? It happens more than you might think.

Drugs are illegal and will remain illegal for a reason.

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Q&A: I really need some help dealing with an alcoholic!?

Question by Princess: I really need some help dealing with an alcoholic!?
I really need some advice on what to do! This may be kinda long, but Ill try to make it quick.

I live with my boyfriend. Were both 21 years old. His dad split up with his girlfriend of estimated 10 years about 6 months ago. My boyfriend, his older borther (23) and dad were all living with the girlfriend and her sons. My boyfriend moved out and in with me before the split occured. His dad and his brother got an apartment and have been living together since. They are both really bad alchoholics. Especially his dad. His brother, today actually, just graduated from some forn of AA and had been sober for 1 to 2 weeks now. Can any body give us any advice on what we can do for his dad? Their oldest brother is a psychologist and he cant get through to his dad. Everytime someone tries to talk to his dad and be honest with him, he thinks they hate him and arent on his side. He is irrational. His life is going down the drain and hes on the brink of loosing his career. My boyfriend gets calls just about evey night about some argument or fight they just had. His brother often asks to spend the night at our house. Now I love his brother as if he were my own, but our home is rather small and it puts stress on our relationship. My boyfriend is so stressed out. He thinks his dad is going to die soon if he keeps this up. I mean his dad is up at 7 am drunk! Passing out, falling all over the place. Its so bad that at one point he tried to kiss me! You can imagaine how he felt the day after. For all of us this has affected what can we do?!

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Answer by Jillian
You should call someone that can help you set up an intervention, like a rehab center, social worker or psychologist that can help him go into rehab. Not only are relationships on the line, but his health and everyone else around him. He needs to understand that people love him and are there for him, and that alcohol is not the answer. He wants to be in a state that is not reality and doesn’t care if he dies. He needs to be in a place where they can structure and control his habits and help him out of this and cope in a healthy way.

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Q&A: I’m 16, and some say my drinking habits are bad, am I an alcoholic?

Question by Shish Kabob: I’m 16, and some say my drinking habits are bad, am I an alcoholic?
I’m a 16 year old boy and a junior and high school. I started drinking when I was 15. Alcoholism runs in my family on my mother’s side and I have an addictive personality. I often drink and drive so I can get home before my curfew at night or if when going to a party I don’t worry about a DD. I have stolen so that I could drink. I get about 100 dollars a month and at least 60 of that goes to my heaven hill vodka or keystones. I usually drink at parties, but sometimes I drink alone in my bedroom or with a friend while hanging out to make the time a little more fun. I never drink to feel better about myself or to escape emotions. I crave a drink during the day and think about it all the time. Sometimes I’ll have a few shots before church or school. Or I’ll go home while hanging with friends so I can have a quick drink and then return to my friends. I’ve only blacked out maybe a dozen times from being drunk. And I’ve only gotten violent twice. As far as hurting myself, it was only once and it was because it was my first time and didn’t know my limit. Sometimes I can’t sleep good unless I have a shot before bed. But I don’t really feel dependent. A youth minister told me to go 30 days without alcohol and see if I could do it. I probably could but I was kinda craving a beer a few days later so I had one. But I feel that I could quit.

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Answer by anniee_x
Please, see someone. You’re so intelligent, the first way to stop this is to break it down, which you already have. I, personally think, you have a small problem, here. You’ve admitted that. Now go and see someone.
Three times my dad made appointments to sort his problem out, but never went because he had hangover. :(
I sure hope he gets better.

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Q&A: What are some ways that the campus authorities can do (if any) to reduce binge drinking?

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Question by Shai: What are some ways that the campus authorities can do (if any) to reduce binge drinking?
I read somewhere that there are a lot of reports of college binge drinking. There was one guy that was a freshman he died from alcohol poisoning.

Is there something that can help students understand the dangers of drinking. I know there the usual things people try to praise but obviously, they’re stilling binging.

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Answer by nichidancer
I’m in college, and I personally choose not to drink at all. Campus authorities do not have a lot of power, since students are legal to drink. I guess through education of the consequences is the most institutions can do, but it is the individuals’ decision if they want to drink themselves to death.

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